Marriage Vows

I love marriage, just tweak the marriage vows a little to include with the traditional love, honor, charish, sickness, health, rich, poor, etc., promise to be intimately exclusive, stop dating, texting, facebooking, calling, emailing, having coffee with anyone who is not my wife / husband.
Without boundaries and clarity then marriage is just living together with health benefits...

Things change, people change, just think about it, in friendship, relationship, family, employment and marriage....there is always change,  But we dont always update and adjust ourselves to change.  What was isnt anymore so our thought process needs to be adjusted.  Boundaries must be put in place and reevaluating the appropriatenes of certain relationships outside of the marriage is very important. There are no such things as just friends with the opposite sex.  There is something that the "other" person is bringing to our lives that bring interest and attraction and the theory behind we are just friends because you didnt have a physical relationship with that person is simply a theory.  We are attracted to other people either same sex or opposite sex because that is simply the way we are made...BUT...that is where the commitment of our marital vows, our ethics, our morals have to stand out loud and clear to set the invisible boundaries that are necessary to maintain our monogomous committed relationships.

Many times women get accused of being jealous when we bring to our significant others attention of an inappropriate relationship.  Men and women know exactly what they are doing but it is hard to admit and be honest about an outside attraction.  So we need to keep the lines of communication open and be aware of the changing signs of who we are over time during long or even brief committed relationships.  Marriages sometimes cant stand the scrutiny of reviewing what is lacking and pride an ego stand in the way of repairing or avoiding potential damage.  Miscommunication results sometimes in break ups, divorce, affairs all leading to heartache, guilty, grief, and disillusionment of life.